by Wendy Keller
The day we buried my children was the worst day of my life, of course. Afterward, emotionally exhausted and in extreme pain from two hours sitting up in a wheelchair, I was lying on my hospital bed. My mother came and took my hand. She said, “When you get this far down, there’s only one direction left to go.”
Somehow, that thought has stuck with me ever since. You can only get so low before things MUST change. Even the addicts call it “reaching bottom.” It seems to me like life is always on a continuum, from high to low. Every aspect of our life is on it’s own continuum. I have rarely in my life had “all the plates spinning” at the same time. There’s always one that’s broken or wobbling. Getting around to being OK with that inevitability seems like the path to peace.
Here’s the only guarantee of human existence that I’ve ever seen (beyond birth and death): if you’re at the bottom, things will start to go up again. You will start to move back up the spiral. You may THINK you’re at the bottom and find out it can get worse, but after that, it’s gotta start getting better. It’s a law of nature. After the wildfire took out my home – heck, my entire neighborhood – the landscape was black, gray and sooty. Drive there now, and other than some charred but living trees, it looks very green and lush. But to those who know, that’s not how it used to look.
If you’re is attached to how it used to look, used to be, used to feel, you’re in trouble. Getting used to How Things Are Now is about 90% of the trick of letting things get better. “Better” may not be the better you prefer, but the human soul cannot survive in anguish forever. Things will eventually change and you will be at peace, you will find joy, things will get better one day. You’ll see. Practice looking for the upswing – cuz it’s a-coming!
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