by Wendy Keller, www.WendyKeller.com
So let’s say you finally figure out what you want…want to do with your life, your career. Or what you want to own. Or whom you want to spend the rest of your life with. And then suddenly, SPLAT! Your life hits a brick wall. Everything you thought was right is now over. Just like that.
Plan B must be found, whether you like it or not. And chances are, if you’re human, you do not.
Does hitting the proverbial brick wall mean you were heading the wrong direction?
What about the common rah-rah that if you hit a brick wall, it’s just life testing to see if you will figure out a way over it?
Here’s my theory: a brick wall splat is life saying politely, “Ahem. Now that I have your attention, let’s take a moment to think this through.”
I hate that. But if you mix in a little Buddhism, a little Present Moment Awareness stuff, rather than just pick yourself up and start trying to chisel through the wall, or worse, giving up and walking away with your tail between your legs, then what would have? You’d have maturity. Intelligence.
The only way you’ll know if this Splat! means “Wrong way, pal!” or “Try harder to prove you really want it” or some message in between is if you..heaven forbid…step back and look at this obstacle – and the goal toward which you were rushing headlong – from a peaceful place, from another perspective, from a wider vantage point.
Of course, there are lots of ways to gain perspective. Ask wise friends. Journal about it. Sit quietly (preferably in nature) and review your actions and the outcome you’ve attained. Breathe. Let your brain flit.
Once you have a broader perspective, you may discover that the brick wall is just a little retainer wall in the garden of life. Or you may find it’s walled you in – or out – of your objective. But whatever you discover, with perspective comes a clear idea of what to do next.
You already know what to do now. Give that voice space and freedom to speak.