…And Create Ones that Bring You the Life You Desire
Pretty much everyone on the planet knows that thoughts create your feelings and your feelings drive your behavior – even for those who consider themselves very logical.
Most people have also noticed in their own lives that if they think happy thoughts, they tend to have a happier day. Makes sense, right? (The “chicken” that comes first is the thoughts, the happy day is the egg.)
When you’re coming out of a crisis in your life, though, sometimes your brain has gotten used to feeling bad. Justifiably, you were in grief or pain or loss, anger or depression, PTSD or fear, on and on. All the negative thoughts. You know you’re thinking mostly negative thoughts when your life is mostly sad and negative.
I’ll never advise you to get all fake and syrupy about it. I’m just offering you a technique that works whenever you’re READY to start moving away from negative thoughts. It might be a fun experiment for a day or two. It’s up to you if or when you do it.
1. Sit down somewhere… and pick a thought that represents something you’d like to attract into your life. Let’s say you’re sick of feeling angry at someone. You’d like to create a harmonious relationship, maybe with the person who cheated you or cheated on you. Your only job is to pick what you really want in your life. Form a great thought, such as “It would be really terrific if John and I had a good relationship.”
2. Hold that thought until you feel it filling your brain up. It will feel like someone poured warm honey on your brain.
3. Now come up with the closest related thought about what you want. For instance, if you and John are trying to co-parent through your divorce, you might say, “I’d love to see John being really good and patient with our kids.”
4. Hold that one too until you feel it spread over your grey matter.
5. Repeat 1-4 until you’ve strung together about 20 thoughts focused on one thing that you really want in your life.
6. Now go about your day. BUT if you catch yourself thinking or saying (which is the expression of thought) anything negative about John (in this case), you need to immediately go and repeat 1-5, so you can “wash away” the negative thought.
This isn’t hocus-pocus or New Age rah-rah stuff. You all know what I’ve been through in my life. My bio is above under “Meet Wendy”. I don’t buy into any of that craziness. But in EVERY single spiritual tradition, from Christianity to Buddhism to Islam to Judaism to Hinduism and beyond, every single one talks about controlling our thoughts, thinking positive things about other people, aligning our thoughts with our philosophies, on and on.
Here’s the deal: if it works even once – by providing you with more peace, love and joy in your life – then it was worth it, right? You’re completely entitled to staying as miserable as you choose to be, but if you’re kind of sick of those awful feelings, well, give this a shot.
PLEASE COME BACK AND COMMENT ON HOW IT WORKED FOR YOU!