by Wendy Keller
In the last six months, 17 of my friends, clients and acquaintances have had a parent die. This huge, shocking number shakes me to my very core, as I have four parents, all of them approximately 70 years old.
One of my closest girlfriend’s hateful estranged mother’s dying words were “Get out of my room.” She was a bad mother and a cruel lady to her last breath.
My high school sweetheart’s father, whom I loved for his kind ways, died in a hospital after weeks of decline, surrounded by his large, loving family.
My next-door neighbor’s comment to me when I inquired about his sick mother was that she had passed a week earlier. He said, “Nobody should ever have to suffer so badly for so long.”
One of the women in my Mastermind group couldn’t attend today because her mother died on Sunday – Mother’s Day.
For most of us, sometime in our teens it occurs to us that our parents may one day die. Someday, in the distant future, much later, when they’re old. But whether it is that far ahead or it happens in their prime of life, losing a parent is losing a piece of your history. The person who remembers you when you were small; the way things were in your family in the old days, before most of the people who are in your life now knew you; the keeper of your story.
I’ve spent a lot of time researching and collecting the best online resources I can find for those of you suffering from the death of a parent. My love goes out to all of you at this difficult time in your life.
These websites seem very compassionate, wise and helpful:
- The Mayo Clinic has a very good article on the death of a parent
- Simpler Life Today (he makes a lot of spelling errors, but the content is wise and grounded)
- When a child’s mother dies
- I found this one to be especially compassionate: Griefwords.com
- This site offers a lot of perspectives: OpentoHope.com
Sending you and your family my love, comfort and good wishes.
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