Is your brain driving you crazy?

Posted in Depression, Hope, Managing Emotions


the space to find ourselves anew by Wendy Keller In the frenzy of human activity,…


the space to find ourselves anewwendykeller.com

by Wendy Keller

In the frenzy of human activity, human noise and human responsibilities, it is easy to lose ourselves. It’s easy to disconnect from nature and the beauty all around us and focus only on the next task or the next crisis.

I noticed an old palm tree today near my home.  I’ve never seen that tree before in my life! It wasn’t planted overnight.  How could I have passed it so many times without ever seeing it?

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Understanding Angry People

Posted in Managing Emotions


Do You “Do Drama” with Your Friends? by Wendy Keller A new business friend shocked…


Do You “Do Drama” with Your Friends?

by Wendy Keller

A new business friend shocked me when he got irate at two of my colleagues, who are people  I like and respect.  He said some insulting things to them and damaged several relationships in the process for me.  It’s not the first time he’s done this, and it causes me to feel…sad.  For him.

I’ve been pondering it ever since. Why would a grown-up do such a thing?  Especially one who really doesn’t have a stake in the outcome of the work my intelligent, competent and thoughtful colleagues are doing?  As I’ve puzzled over this, I’ve started to think about people in my life who have created drama. Do you have them too?

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Do You Have a “Broken Picker” When It Comes To Choosing Good People?

Posted in Abuse Recovery, Depression, Hope, Managing Emotions, Relationships


The Insidious After-Effects of Being Abused, Cheated On, Lied To, Hurt or Neglected, Insulted, Demeaned,…


The Insidious After-Effects of Being Abused, Cheated On, Lied To, Hurt or Neglected, Insulted, Demeaned, Berated, Bullied or in Any Other Way Abused By Other People

by Wendy Keller

When a human being is abused by another, the most important thing we lose is our sense of trust.  As abuse victims, we decide we can no longer trust some (or all) of these:

  • A parent or both parents
  • A relative or all relatives
  • All men or all women
  • Teachers, priests, ministers, Boy Scout leaders, etc.
  • Our peers – the mean kids or the mean colleagues
  • Lovers or spouses
  • Our own children
  • Civil authorities like police and judges
  • God, religion or other belief systems

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Delayed Trauma Reactions – Have you REALLY gotten over it?

Posted in Child loss, Chronic Pain and Illness, Depression, Disaster, Divorce, Financial Challenges, Grief & Death, Hope, Managing Emotions, Relationships


What do you need to do to get better? by Wendy Keller, fatal car crash…


What do you need to do to get better?

by Wendy Keller, fatal car crash survivor

This morning, a 73 year old doctor in Tampa Bay, Florida shot himself.  Today was his 38th wedding anniversary.  He was accused of recklessly driving his speedboat and killing four teenage boys in 1989.  Although he was acquitted, he never really got over it.

This morning, I met with a friend, age 64, who told me bitterly she’d stopped talking to her father.  They’ve had so many arguments in the years I’ve known her!  In their last scene, she said she told him, “I’m a grown up now! You can’t keep hurting me like you did when I was 12!”  I don’t know for sure, but I can fill in the blanks on that one and so can you.  My friend has recently lost 80 lbs and she has another 60 to go.  Whatever happened back then, she never really got over it.

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One Quick Depression-Busting Trick

Posted in Depression, Hope, Managing Emotions


Feeling Blue? Try this! by Wendy Keller, sometimes depressed, sometimes not If you’re feeling sad,…


Feeling Blue? Try this!

by Wendy Keller, sometimes depressed, sometimes not

If you’re feeling sad, depressed, down, unhappy, overwhelmed, or tearful, chances are you don’t want a SIMPLE, easy, FAST bandage for how you’re feeling.  You probably want a COMPLICATED, expensive, PROLONGED solution, one worthy of your malaise.

So while you’re saving up to hire that fancy therapist or a prescription to some mind-altering anti-depressant, you may as well try this while you wait.

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