by Wendy Keller, former dog owner, regular flosser
Have you ever been in an argument with someone and you get this frustrating feeling that you’re digging a deeper hole with every word you say? Yeah, me too.
It occurs to me that sometimes, we do that in other aspects of our lives also. Like when something isn’t working and we keep trying the same thing over and over again.
There’s a restaurant in my town that sometimes has the bad chef but usually, the good one. On the occasions I get the bad chef, I somehow think that taking another bite will maybe make it taste better. Never has worked yet. Never will.
If you’re like me and most other human beings… then sometimes you have stuck around a job, a relationship or a situation too long. Perhaps you say to yourself, “Well, maybe this will change.”
That’s called “Magical Thinking.”
Unless you’re doing something different, or you have concrete reasons to think other factors will make it change, it’s just plain crazy to keep on keeping on. Not a whole heck of a lot happens just by magic.
Next time you feel frustration building up inside you, ask yourself, “Is being in this situation yet again just digging myself a deeper hole?” If you think it is, the only next logical question is, “Should I leave or can I take action right now to fix it?”
Then summon the courage to take the action or to just simply leave. Step out the back, Jack. Make a new plan, Stan. You get the picture.